Moving day approaches… on accepting help

Gratitude by shannonkringenSatya writes: Time is ticking on. We’re still waiting for a date, but all being well, in three or maybe even two weeks we will be moving into the new temple in Malvern.

We are incredibly lucky to have had lots of offers of help both locally & from our sangha across the UK. Something that’s going to be a bit more challenging for me is accepting all that help.

There are various reasons for this. I worry that people will offer us too much and then feel resentful. I don’t like to be in people’s ‘debt’. Accepting help makes me feel vulnerable and that I can’t-do-everything-myself (which is true of course, but I still don’t like to acknowledge it). I don’t trust others to get things ‘right’. And so on.

This resistance to being helped isn’t helpful for me or for the people offering their help. We human beings like to help. We like to know that we have been of use to people & projects, especially if we care about them. Different people will bring their own unique talents & perspectives to the temple, helping to mitigate our blind spots and creating something much more amazingly wonderful than the sum of our parts. Community is glued together by people helping & people receiving help.

And so my practice over the next few weeks will be gratitude – for the offers we receive, and for all the things people do to contribute to the project – which isn’t mine & Kaspa’s but OURS.

US. Everyone that sends us their good wishes, or donates a few pounds, or does the washing up after our open day. Everyone on our mailing list, and everyone who is hoping to come & see us sometime.

Getting better at receiving help will be one of the gifts the temple has for me. What gift might it have for you, whether you visit or are influenced from afar?

Namo Amida Bu _/\_